Why do betray my own interests?

Nobody really knows this at this point, but it's looking like each day my likelihood of returning next semester is slowly dwindling. My vision is slowly dwindling each day. I know that the type of person that likes to make himself vulnerable and ask for help, nor I am the person to offer my services if I do think they're wanted in any way shape or form. It's the reason I never joined the worship band in church--I showed up once but felt unwelcome and didn't go back again. Is this a manifestation of pride? I'm sure it is.

I don't know if there's a small part of me that doesn't want to fit in and thus I ostracize myself. I naturally make friends and become popular, so I act weird sometimes because I subconsciously want to drive people away from me? I don't know? It's so hard trying to psycho-analyze myself. Is it a lack of motivation that has caused me to allow opportunities to slip between my fingertips? Because only later do I realize that I may have wanted to participate in the program other people are getting accepted in. I don't know if there is a simple "do this" solution.

....to-do's

I think I have a very small to-do-list. Not that I don't have dreams, I just have a small list of things I actually want to "become."

I want to live in purity,
I want to eat a balanced diet and exercise regularly,
I want to have time for friends, family, and God,
I want to fall in love with with my work, with the Scriptures, and love what is right,
I want to be on a regular sleeping schedule (more of a short term goal, haha),
I want to develop my character in a structural way,
I want to create time for music and drinking tea

Really, I bet if everyone thinks about it, their to-do-list is a lot shorter than they think. I have a lot of selfish desired pursuits (like being an author and prolific artist) but the paths of those pursuits are only made known to one who has cultivated his or her character, which really is what my list is about: being more balanced as an individual, making my character known (rather than my wacky dare-devilish tendencies), and becoming one that others can lean on.

..the hard truth

personal growth is the deepening of one's character... right, well, if we take all things as a means to deepen our character and a chance to deepen (enrich) the character of those we interact with, how much better will we be as friends... This isn't exactly my point; I would like to say that I am learning to keep God first in my relationships and use my character as a means to be an encouragement to friends (cuz life is hard enough as it is). Sometimes we have to overlook unfulfilled self-interest and act as servants (not just with people but with things like work).

I'm really starting to realize how important it is to be honest. People aren't the same and people really truly struggle. People can help you grow and I am starting to allow the things around me to not only facilitate growth, but to help affirm my identity. One of my biggest struggles is being honest; it's bending the truth/embellishing and it's holding back key information (thus changing the meaning of what I'm saying). That's me. It's my struggle and it;s part of the wonderful mess that is me. However, the thing is, I'm moving forward (something taking two steps back to advance one lol).

indoctrined?

Of late, I have found myself amidst so many discussions regarding Christianity, or rather theology, which in one way or another affects one's faith. I cannot for the life of me understand how people can get (1) so worked up over meaningless dogma, and (2).... uh, yeah it's basically just (1).... Evidently when someone has been indoctrinated by a belief that did not originate in his or her own brain, he or she is more likely to become angry when the validity is brought into question...perhaps the inability to defend an argument is not always a sign of indoctrination, but it's a good clue.
I believe that there is very little evidence, which reveals the origins of a thought. In John 1:3 the Bible says, "Through Him all things were made; without Him nothing was made that has been made." This suggests that there is a lot more "common" divine inspiration that one may have once thought. Also, since creation, many things have been corrupted, which suggests that many thoughts have demonic influence as well. Just something to think about next time you get into a "meaningless" argument...

judged by questions

Am I quite different from you? I think not. Abraham Lincoln once said, "I don't like that man. I must get to know him better" and I advocate that mentality. I don't like the conclusion of "I dislike or I hate" because there is such a now-and-forever vibe that it sends. A closed mind is unable to understand points of view quite different from his own... and here's the catch22: if you do something yourself in full knowledge that someone does it differently, you assume that their way is lesser than yours (which is not always a bad thing). However, I like when people try things new and they are willing to ask questions rather than make opposing statements laced with rejection.

I like when someone will listen to me speak rot just to lend ears to my voice... and I love when people try to figure out the reason why I believe the things I do rather than telling me I am wrong. Subjective truth is not absolute truth and many things are debatable; I get it--just don't be so ready to jump down someone's throat, because clearly if you were really listening, you wouldn't object so quickly. Just a thought for the day, something I've tried to put into practice to-day.

reminiscing with strangers

Yesterday, I had a conversation with Laz about how I like to get to know people, how we become acquainted and closer. There are few things I enjoy better than a good conversation though I loath a good conversation repeated. This is primarily because a good conversation is spontaneous and a unique ricocheting of ideas and thoughts, expressions and memories. I don't like having a good conversation with someone and listening while they say the same things they said to me to someone else.**
There is no conversation I dislike greater than the great "Calvinism vs. Arminianism" debate. I have heard every argument ten times over and every possible rebuttal. If you want to get to know me, the is no greater flattery than when somebody learns my ways and my character. No greater compliment than when someone knows what my favorite sandwich is just because they see me order it frequently.*** I like that.

**p.s. I had this same conversation with Laz. I am a hypocrite
***This is no easy feat... because I like new things and (not necessarily abhor) try new things often

5 cents of absurdity

I appreciate most my sense of smell; beit my keenest or most indulged sense, there is nothing I enjoy more than a good smelling. Unique smells have aesthetics that no picture nor sound can attain, and bring me a pleasure as a bride to her beloved.
Bring me what? a woman in her prime, or a fine tuned instrument in its aged sound, and I will bring you a perfume that will tickle your nostrils and warm your lungs. Of the mentioned three, a wiff and a waft shall I choose.

Many are shocked that I do not like coffee, but they have assumed I do not like it through and through. I like its freshly brewed scent ever so much and I like the touch of coffee beans to the finger; I like the sight of one enjoying his/her cup of coffee and I like the sound of a mug being filled. I just don't like the taste much...

indifference irks me

At this present moment, if I have no other godly characteristics, I know we share one similarity. I like yea's and nea's.. and the people who could care less make me want to spit. Okay, not literally, but if I ask you if you want to do something, I like an excited, perhaps exaggerated response whether it be yes or no. Why? because I don't like being the one who proposes something and the only one who is excited about it, then I feel like I am dragging said party around with me.

I especially like an excited response, something like this:
Kyle: "Hey (party x) wanna go do (activity y)?"
Party x: "Heck yes I do want to do (activity y)!"
Kyle: "Awesome, me too!" **twofold excitement**

me and my love of candy

Britain should be doing what it can to protect its industrial base, to diversify away from financial services, it seems crazy considering the £11.7 billion Kraft takeover. We all know from Milton Bradley’s game of Monopoly that in the long term, owning property is much more of an asset that hard cash. The British VAT (value added tax) is already being raised to 20 hundredths per cent, literally 20%, in January 2011. Comparatively, Massachusetts is famously called “taxachusetts” because of its measly 6.25% sales tax, imagine 20%!


Already owning prosperous confectionary companies like Terry’s, Daim, and Côte d’Or, Kraft has a very strong market base and its herd increase is inevitable—knowing that before long, American Companies will diversify and increase international sales (thus overpowering the subtle British class) in chocolates.

For goodness’ sake, since I arrived, I can tell that the chocolate is already becoming more quantity and less quality. Kraft is the what? “plastic cheese company” of America? And the level of debt in the Kraft deal means cost cutting is likely. All milk chocolate bases are now of the same constitute; I checked the ingredients listing, and honestly, individually wrapped Cadbury chocolate now tastes the same: good, but the same. Before too much change occurred (not just in Cadbury, but all classic British chocolate), I decided I would try a good majority of the bars. Now, I know this sounds unhealthy.. what can I say?



So here it goes (in order of pleasure derived from, greatest to least): Star Bar, Curly Wurly, Buttons, Twirl, Yorkie, Mars, Topic, Crunchie, Wispa, Fry’s Turkish Delight, Moro, Flake, Aero, Drifter, Revels, Milky Bar, Maltesers, Toffee Crisp, Cadbury’s Fudge, Breakaway, Bournville, Walnut Whip, Vice Versas, Rolo, Double Decker, Smarties, Leah Bar, Dairy Milk and Texan